No One is Actually ‘Busy’ — We’re Just Bad at Choosing

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Jun 16
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“I’m just so busy.”We all say it. It’s become a default response — an easy excuse, a social flex, and sometimes even a way to avoid things we don’t want to face.

But here’s the uncomfortable truth:Most of us aren’t actually that busy.We’re just bad at choosing.

The Badge of Busyness

Being “busy” makes us feel important. It signals productivity, value, and even status. But more often than not, it’s a smokescreen — something we use to cover up the reality that we’re overwhelmed, distracted, or just unclear on what truly matters.

Busyness feels safe.Choosing, on the other hand, is uncomfortable.

Choosing means setting boundaries.It means saying no.It means being honest with ourselves — and risking getting it wrong. That’s not easy.

We Confuse Movement with Progress

It’s tempting to fill our days with low-effort tasks. Replying to messages, checking notifications, ticking off things that don’t actually matter — all so we can feel productive.But staying in motion doesn’t mean you’re moving forward.

You can be running all day and still end up nowhere.

In fact, we often stay “busy” to avoid discomfort — the stillness, the decisions, the risk of letting others down. But it’s in that discomfort where the real work happens: deep focus, bold choices, honest reflection.That’s where growth begins.

The Real Problem: We Don’t Have Filters

The issue isn’t time. It’s clarity.

When everything feels urgent, we burn out trying to keep up.We lose the ability to filter out the noise from what truly matters.

That’s why we need to ask ourselves harder questions:

Does this move me closer to the life I want?Or am I just staying busy to avoid choosing?

Productivity isn’t about cramming more into your day. It’s about protecting what deserves to be there.The goal isn’t to do more. It’s to choose better.